No, not at all. Very few divorce cases go to a trial. Most couples are able to reach an out of court settlement. These out of court settlements are often reached using mediation, collaborative law, settlement conferences, and simple negotiation over the phone.
Of course, there are certain situations that may force you to go to court, but that’s usually a last resort. Most people prefer to have control over the decisions made during their divorce instead of letting a judge do it for them.